tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6698485942829350804.post1204221326855258691..comments2024-03-27T11:24:07.321-07:00Comments on Tales of Minor Interest - SchmoopyBaby and More: Speaking to the NeedShanahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14199297800734686869noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6698485942829350804.post-24773176515750489352012-03-30T16:02:49.669-07:002012-03-30T16:02:49.669-07:00Good job, Shana!
We all have our needs and we all...Good job, Shana!<br /><br />We all have our needs and we all want to be listened to. Same is true for the kids. And it really is something we should be constantly aware of as mothers. It's great that you are able to talk to the little one so he can understand your needs too. So, yeah, it's a 2-way street.<br /><br />@Zoie: "Why is the default disconnection and correction instead of connection" -- because it's what were used to and it's what's usually convenient? but ends up a disaster in the end really. :sLes @ LPN Programshttp://lpntrainingprograms.orgnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6698485942829350804.post-41973769091461267122012-03-28T23:41:23.897-07:002012-03-28T23:41:23.897-07:00I'm chuckling as I read this because I'm t...I'm chuckling as I read this because I'm thinking back to this evening. I mentioned to my husband that he was falling into the no-default because he was tired. Then, I did the same thing myself when I became tired. I stopped listening to my kids and stopped asking myself why I was saying no. I didn't notice until they were all grumpy and I wondered what had "gotten into them."<br /><br />Once I realized, I checked in with what was going on with me, what needs weren't being met, gave myself a shoulder then set about reconnecting with my kids (and later, I'll do the same with my husband. Ha!)<br /><br />I always wonder why this has to be a practice when the results are amazing. Why is the default disconnection and correction instead of connection? It seems nonsensical, but hey, it wouldn't be a mindfulness practice if it were so easy. And maybe we'd not get the joy from it without the effort.<br /><br />Mindful Muffins taste better, I'll bet!<br /><br />Thank you for participating in the Mindful Mama Carnival.Zoie @ TouchstoneZhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08688056216105729821noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6698485942829350804.post-54496500341832923672012-03-28T20:04:05.152-07:002012-03-28T20:04:05.152-07:00I love this and you're also helping me with so...I love this and you're also helping me with something I've been pondering lately... which is how much can I really talk to my daughter without burdening her with "adult thinking". I'm not expressing this right, but I appreciating reading how you communicated with your child and how well it went. It just makes sense to me in a very deep way. <br />So much of it all is about really hearing them, isn't it?teresahttp://spiritgrooves.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6698485942829350804.post-25037717984036386882012-03-28T17:30:17.740-07:002012-03-28T17:30:17.740-07:00I love this story and the point it illustrates. I ...I love this story and the point it illustrates. I remember as a child how often I felt such needs went un-met (much of the time out of that general busy-ness and need to get things done, I'm sure) but it left a sting all the same. I aspire right along with you to speak to the need of my little one and am sure it will be a learning journey. Thank you so much for sharing.Kellyhttp://www.becomingcrunchy.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6698485942829350804.post-89159330820379776032012-03-27T14:11:57.407-07:002012-03-27T14:11:57.407-07:00Nice to meet you via the carnival Mindful Mama!Nice to meet you via the carnival Mindful Mama!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08664045557725853106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6698485942829350804.post-79348149730035707232012-03-27T11:31:08.533-07:002012-03-27T11:31:08.533-07:00It can be so hard to balance our needs with our ch...It can be so hard to balance our needs with our children's needs, but satisfying when we find a way to do it. I suspect that you hit the mark more often than you might be aware.Patti @ Canadian Unschoolerhttp://www.canadianunschooler.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6698485942829350804.post-87918907814611554092012-03-27T08:01:45.222-07:002012-03-27T08:01:45.222-07:00Oh you are absolutely right that he (and all kids!...Oh you are absolutely right that he (and all kids!) appreciate when we take time to hear them. It helps so much when I really listen to Kieran. He still often needs time to cool down, but knowing I understand why he is upset helps him work through it.<br /><br />This is also a really great example of finding the yes - the compromise - instead of automatically saying no. Such a great skill to learn!Dionna @ Code Name: Mamahttp://codenamemama.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6698485942829350804.post-83798685844400507232012-03-27T06:35:33.223-07:002012-03-27T06:35:33.223-07:00Shana, it is so nice to meet you. :) I appreciate ...Shana, it is so nice to meet you. :) I appreciate your clear example of how you are working to meet everyone's needs. The stories you illustrated demonstrate to me that you really care about the relationship you are creating. Very powerful, beyond words really.<br /><br />Sure, there may be misses - that's part of life. Celebrating the times when you feel you're right on and you can enjoy the beauty of the parent-child relationship definitely has it's place and I'm glad you have share it here, with us. Keep on keepin' on. :)Amy Phoenixhttp://presenceparenting.comnoreply@blogger.com